It's always weird when I hear guys my age refer to a woman
their own age as a MILF. MILF implies
that it's a woman in an age group or category that you wouldn't normally have
sex with but you would make an exception for a particular one. When you're pushing fifty it should be MIHF,
as in Mom I Have to Fuck, because you're
no prize yourself and its' not like 20 year old girls are beating down your
door to have sex with you. It's odd that
men use acronyms that demean women and somehow think it's a compliment.
Men have always felt entitled when it comes to women. I’ve heard countless guys sitting around
talking about women, be it someone they know or a movie star or model. They
always say things like “I’d fuck her” or “She’s not that hot, but I wouldn’t kick her out of bed” in a tone that
implies that they would be doing these woman a favor. Do they really think they would have a chance
with any of these women they’re talking about?
Do they think Angelina Jolie is sitting around waiting for the chance to
have sex with some middle-aged, out of shape guy that spends his time talking
to other guys about imaginary sex partners?
Forget Angelina, do they think some random woman they see in the supermarket
would want to drop everything and hop into bed with them because they decide
she’s good enough for him?
I think men also believe that if a woman is older that she’s
desperate enough to take what she can get, but I assume it’s the opposite. Older women are not scrounging around for
sexual bread crumbs, indiscriminately bedding down with any man pathetic enough
to have her. When a woman is older she realizes that there are more important
things in life than fulfilling men’s selfish fantasies. In most cases I’ve found that people grow and
change as they age, and their priorities change in regards to sex. Well, women do anyway.
If you have sex with an older woman and you’re not cutting
it in the sack she won’t waste her time showing you what you’re doing wrong,
she doesn’t have that kind of patience anymore.
If you’re a really hot, young, go all night kind of guy, then yeah,
she’ll have the patience. If you’re her
age you’re expected to know what you’re doing and if you don’t … well, there’s
a million more that look like you that do.
Older woman have shit going on in their lives and they don’t have time
to waste on your sorry ass. As much as
you may think you’re doing her a favor, it’s really the other way around, trust
me.
Don’t get me wrong, women my age enjoy some no strings sex
also. I always seem to notice that
whenever one of these aging Lotharios go out with a woman for a fling, they are
the ones that never seem to be able to handle it when it turns out to be just
that. They’re a mess when the woman
doesn’t want something more, and the next thing you know they turn into
borderline stalkers.
Older women hold all the cards. Nowadays they have even been marketed to
younger guys as “cougars”. Society has
convinced young guys that they would really rather be sleeping with women twice
their age than other twenty-somethings.
This, like everything else, is playing to men’s insecurities. The whole cougar phenomenon is telling young
guys that older women are desperate, a sure thing, prepared to do all kinds of
wild and kinky stuff on the first date because they have to work harder just to
get you to have sex with them. That, of
course, is ridiculous. The only thing
any woman has to do to have sex with any guy, regardless of age, is to let
them.
If you are a cougar, just remember: odds are that the
younger guy is looking for you because he thinks you need him. That means he is actually the one with the
self-esteem problem, which means you are in the driver seat. I think most older women understand this, and
if they don’t and they’re reading this, then the cats out of the bag.
Personally, I would much rather go out with a woman my own
age. I have dated women 10, even 20
years my junior and it gets very old really quickly. In most cases, I can sit and talk to a woman
half my age for about twelve minutes before I want to stick a screwdriver
through my eye and into my brain. It’s
nothing against them, but I cannot relate to their world anymore, nor can they
relate to mine, and that’s how it should be.
If it were just sex and no talking that would be one thing, but I guess
that would be prostitution. Also, it
wouldn’t be any fun.
When you mature, you realize that sex isn’t only about just
the physical aspect. That part is still
fun, don’t get me wrong, but it’s not the only part. Sex that only consists of the physical act
and only that gets old after awhile if that’s all you have. Sure there are people from time to time where
the sex is great, but just talking to them is like nails on a blackboard. You can try to reconcile the two, but in the
end no amount of great sex can sustain a relationship if you don’t like or
respect who the person is.
As a person gets older they come to realize that having
someone you can trust, or that makes you feel comfortable and sexy with who you
are is a much bigger part of the equation than just getting off. It’s all a very tricky thing for most people,
which is why I suppose there are so many people still out there looking for
MILFs or cougars, or boy toys or whatever.
Maybe it’s the labels that get us into these messes in the
first place. Keep in mind, the term
“older woman” is a relative term, it can mean just about anything depending on
the age of the person using it. To a 20
year old, it could mean a 32 year old woman, to a 30 year old it could mean a 36
year old woman. To a 40 year old, it
could mean a 41 year old woman. I notice that the older a guy gets the smaller
the age difference he’s willing to put up with, another relative aspect. A big part of it is that the older a guy gets
the less he wants to be reminded of the fact that he’s old, I guess.
It’s ridiculous of course.
To think that going out with a woman that’s older than you are makes you
old is to ignore all the things that actually mean you’re old. Losing your hair, your physique, dribbling
when you pee, etc means you’re getting old, not dating a woman that’s your
senior.
Senior. There’s a
word nobody wants to deal with, so
lets just ignore that for now.
It’s even more ridiculous to think that going out with a
younger woman will make you feel young.
If you really want to feel old, try going out with and keeping up with a
young girl.
I just think people for the most part would be happier
dating in their own age group, if they’re serious about it. If you are attracted
to an older woman that’s fine, if you are attracted to older women, you might have some esteem
issues.
Of course, you can all do whatever you want. I think we’re all just a bunch of psychotic
apes that are hurtling through life with no idea what we’re doing or why we’re
doing it. We should just take care to try
not to hurt the other apes feelings along the way.
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